College Pains

The first thing to remember is that this is not high school anymore. That in itself can be a blessing in many ways but it can also be a curse. When you were in high school you dealt with the teachers you were given. In college, you don’t have to. College gives you more that one option. If you dont like your professor or the way they teach, switch. Got one that picks on you, switch. They give you 12 weeks or so to do so if need be. On the offside you ONLY have 12 weeks or so. Make sure you decide AND fix it before that time is up. Another tid-bit of info is that when you are going through college, learn time management so that you can plan everything you do ahead of time. It makes things so much easier in the long run and takes away the stress of planning things out on the spot (i.e classes). In other words, no more acting like “a chicken with its head cut off”. Last but not least, learn to be self teachers/learners because professors are no where near perfect and doing your part helps fill in those blanks. It’s easier to do so when you’re exploring into what you’re learning instead of only working with what they are giving you. 


You don’t have forever. Make the best of it.

Children: I know that what I’m about to say may not be what you want to hear but I want you to understand that I’m saying this to you for your own good. Enjoy every minute you have with mom and dad because their time clock is ticking. If you’re fighting with them, please stop. You’re not going to get those minutes, hours, or days back. Use them wisely. If you spend a lot of time away from home as you get older, make time to come home. You don’t want to be the one saying “I wish I would have come home more” or “I wish I would have got to talk to them more. Spent more time with them.” The truth is, you don’t get anymore time. You don’t have forever with them so make the best of the time you do have now. Here’s a video I hope you watch:



Parents: I’m going to be honest with you just as I was with the children. The time clock is ticking. Just as they don’t have a whole lot of time with you, you don’t have a lot of time with them. And again, just as them, you also don’t get that time back. Once it’s gone, that’s it. It’s gone. All those petty pointless arguments need to stop. Learn to work with each other instead of working against each other. Every one of those peaceful memorable moments are the memories your children and you will never forget. Try to have as many of those as you can. You can ask any child, those are the moments that count. Your children are not asking for top notch perfect parents. All we want is our parents. It’s that simple. Here’s a video I also hope you will watch:

Never Trust a Charmer

A charmer is someone who tells you what you want to hear and then precedes to do what he or she wants. They can not be trusted. It’s the biggest sales tactic most, if not all, salesmen use. All it does is cause more problems for either you or someone else to fix. It also costs you more money in the long run.

Basically your best bet is to know the signs of a charmer. Ladies, take a guy for example. You know, the ones who say whatever you just to get you into bed with them. They’ll smooth talk you a lot, but notice where the direction of the conversation is going. Be smart about it. Acknowledge and access the situation and decide for yourself when to end the conversation.

Understand though that these sort of things don’t just happen to females. This happens to males as well and more than you would think. Men are not the only ones looking for just a good time. But on that note, the way to handle these types of situations is the same. Acknowledge and access the situation and decide for yourself when it’s appropriate to end the conversation. If the conversations seem too perfect to be true, a red flag needs to go up.

Also, things like this (charming/charmers) are not just in single people crowds. They can be found as salesmen or women, doctors, employees, employers, and people who you think are friends.

Just be aware of what’s going on when talking with someone you just met for the first time. From my own experiences, they will say what you want to hear but none of it will make sense. A good way to know whether or not you’re getting charmed is to try and confuse them. If they still say yes to everything you say, then you know and from there you can make your own decision on what to do next. The end decision should always be up to you.

Why you?

Suicide. A permanent solution to a temporary problem. I know this because I almost did it. And my cousin, he succeeded.

I remember giving up. I remember feeling as though the world was coming down on top of me. I remember not knowing what to do to make it stop. It was overwhelming being in that much pain and feeling as though there was nothing I could do. I didn’t want to get out of bed nor did I know what to do with myself. Everyone got angry with me because I wasn’t getting up and doing anything. To be honest, I didn’t think I had a purpose so I didn’t see a point in continuing to live in this world. I held my bottle of headache medication in my hand and i cried. I was going to take every last pill it held. I was done. I took the first pill, then the second, fought with myself, and then took a third. For whatever reason I couldn’t bring myself to take another. I was getting this voice in my head that kept asking ‘Why you?’ and although I thought I had many answers, I really had none. Every problem I had, there was a solution. All I had to do was talk to someone. So I put the bottle down and went to sleep knowing at that point that I didn’t do enough damage and that I would still wake up the next morning. In time all the problems I had were fixed. 

Tommy was 32 when he died. Suicide by hanging. It ruptured my whole family and everyone who knew him. I was taking a nap that afternoon when my mom called crying. When I asked what was wrong she said ‘It’s Tommy. He’s gone..’. I almost dropped the phone. Still to this day we don’t know why it had to be him. There was no note, no answers. We’re broken with no way to fully heal but a million ways to cope. 

When you want to call it quits and give up, you’re leaving behind a whole family who is not willing or ready to let go. You leave behind questions unanswered and loved ones confused. You leave behind a world that’s become crumbled but once used to be whole. Ask yourself this. Why you? Why does it have to be you that leaves? If you can’t answer that question with a legit enough reason, don’t go through with it. Don’t end your time here. 

I want you to get up. Get up right now. I want you to go find someone and spit out everything. Leave it all out on the table. Trust me, I know it’s hard but you have to start somewhere. Holding everything inside won’t help you. If you can’t find someone to listen or help, I’m right here. It’s what I’m here for. Helping you is my purpose.

Why does it have to be you?

There’s no Excuse!

Belittling a child is unacceptable! Where did your understanding go off to? Children are still in the learning stages from birth to 18 years old. Yes I agree that their behavior at times is inexcusable, but does that give you any right at all to make them feel as though they are less than human? No. If they are doing something wrong, then tell them but explain to them why you feel it’s wrong. Don’t EVER resort to name calling or hateful things! How are they suppose to grow up to be well-rounded adults if this is how you come at them? They look up to you. As a role model; as a mentor. Don’t make negative behavior something they learn from you.

It ain’t nothing Aunt Jemima can’t fix!

Pancakes cure everything and Aunt Jemima makes the best ones! All of us have stress and situations in our lives were we don’t know what to do. Here’s a suggestion, drop everything (unless you’re at work, then wait until you get home) and go make some pancakes. Take and put your mind in another place and mentally get away. Come back to the situation  with a clear mind and ready to find a solution.

You’re HUMAN, not a Race!

Skin is skin. All it does is hold in everything that’s in your body. Even if each skin color is different, doesn’t mean it serves any other purpose. It doesn’t define what type of person someone is. Your actions and behavior are what define what type of person you are. Nothing else. Nobody holds any right to judge somebody based off of something they were born with. Not a single person has that kind of power. You’re not anymore superior than anyone else. That goes for all races! If for whatever reason someone judges you or belittles you because of your skin color, remember that it’s not the skin color that is judging you; it’s the person that’s judging you and not all of us are like that. Be upset with their behavior, not their skin color. Skin color is just that, skin. It may be on a person, but it’s not it’s own person.