Relax and Breathe!

You got busy days; people asking for stuff from you right and left. Where’s the time for you, right? You have to make time for you. Nobody else is going to do that for you. They may not even pay attention or care at all about your sanity so the responsibility is mostly on you. Don’t lose sight of yourself in the midst of all the chaos. Your well being is very important even if it’s only to you. Remember that. You are important too.

 

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Burning Yourself Only Hurts

       You know that girlfriend/boyfriend that only causes you pain and heartache? Why are you still with them? If you don’t want to continue being burnt, take your hand OUT of the fire! The longer you leave it in there, the worse it’s going to hurt. Tell your heart to put a cork in it and let your brain take over the situation. Now is the time where you need to think about what’s best for you, not them. It’s your life and your heart. It never was theirs to stomp on. You don’t deserve that and we both know it. And for those of you who have friends like this, the ones that constantly stab you in the back or stand you up on purpose, let them go! Friends are meant to be there to build you up and be there for you as you are for them, not to tear you down. If you give more and do more, than you deserve that back.

College Pains

The first thing to remember is that this is not high school anymore. That in itself can be a blessing in many ways but it can also be a curse. When you were in high school you dealt with the teachers you were given. In college, you don’t have to. College gives you more that one option. If you dont like your professor or the way they teach, switch. Got one that picks on you, switch. They give you 12 weeks or so to do so if need be. On the offside you ONLY have 12 weeks or so. Make sure you decide AND fix it before that time is up. Another tid-bit of info is that when you are going through college, learn time management so that you can plan everything you do ahead of time. It makes things so much easier in the long run and takes away the stress of planning things out on the spot (i.e classes). In other words, no more acting like “a chicken with its head cut off”. Last but not least, learn to be self teachers/learners because professors are no where near perfect and doing your part helps fill in those blanks. It’s easier to do so when you’re exploring into what you’re learning instead of only working with what they are giving you. 

Never Trust a Charmer

A charmer is someone who tells you what you want to hear and then precedes to do what he or she wants. They can not be trusted. It’s the biggest sales tactic most, if not all, salesmen use. All it does is cause more problems for either you or someone else to fix. It also costs you more money in the long run.

Basically your best bet is to know the signs of a charmer. Ladies, take a guy for example. You know, the ones who say whatever you just to get you into bed with them. They’ll smooth talk you a lot, but notice where the direction of the conversation is going. Be smart about it. Acknowledge and access the situation and decide for yourself when to end the conversation.

Understand though that these sort of things don’t just happen to females. This happens to males as well and more than you would think. Men are not the only ones looking for just a good time. But on that note, the way to handle these types of situations is the same. Acknowledge and access the situation and decide for yourself when it’s appropriate to end the conversation. If the conversations seem too perfect to be true, a red flag needs to go up.

Also, things like this (charming/charmers) are not just in single people crowds. They can be found as salesmen or women, doctors, employees, employers, and people who you think are friends.

Just be aware of what’s going on when talking with someone you just met for the first time. From my own experiences, they will say what you want to hear but none of it will make sense. A good way to know whether or not you’re getting charmed is to try and confuse them. If they still say yes to everything you say, then you know and from there you can make your own decision on what to do next. The end decision should always be up to you.

There’s no Excuse!

Belittling a child is unacceptable! Where did your understanding go off to? Children are still in the learning stages from birth to 18 years old. Yes I agree that their behavior at times is inexcusable, but does that give you any right at all to make them feel as though they are less than human? No. If they are doing something wrong, then tell them but explain to them why you feel it’s wrong. Don’t EVER resort to name calling or hateful things! How are they suppose to grow up to be well-rounded adults if this is how you come at them? They look up to you. As a role model; as a mentor. Don’t make negative behavior something they learn from you.

It ain’t nothing Aunt Jemima can’t fix!

Pancakes cure everything and Aunt Jemima makes the best ones! All of us have stress and situations in our lives were we don’t know what to do. Here’s a suggestion, drop everything (unless you’re at work, then wait until you get home) and go make some pancakes. Take and put your mind in another place and mentally get away. Come back to the situation  with a clear mind and ready to find a solution.

You’re HUMAN, not a Race!

Skin is skin. All it does is hold in everything that’s in your body. Even if each skin color is different, doesn’t mean it serves any other purpose. It doesn’t define what type of person someone is. Your actions and behavior are what define what type of person you are. Nothing else. Nobody holds any right to judge somebody based off of something they were born with. Not a single person has that kind of power. You’re not anymore superior than anyone else. That goes for all races! If for whatever reason someone judges you or belittles you because of your skin color, remember that it’s not the skin color that is judging you; it’s the person that’s judging you and not all of us are like that. Be upset with their behavior, not their skin color. Skin color is just that, skin. It may be on a person, but it’s not it’s own person.