I know most of you don’t like reality. I also know it hurts at times, but what reality is doing is showing you what’s wrong so that you can either a) learn from it, or b) fix it. When my cousin took his own life, it taught me to reconsider holding in how I feel inside all the time (of course that wasn’t until after the grieving was over). It taught me that I needed to sit down and figure out all my personal problems and not let them get so out of hand that I can’t take it anymore. Reality took something horrible in my life and gave me something good from it. Reality is not out to get you. It’s not something you need to hide from. It’s something that can help you. Look at the picture underneath the obvious image. That is where you’re going to find your answers. All those “Why me?” questions, that’s where you can answer those. Trust that reality will steer you in the right direction. Don’t just pay attention to the obvious, pay attention to what the obvious is trying to tell you. What is it trying to teach you?
Hatred: Hatred is a statement made towards a person, place, or thing. It’s a statement or comment that is usually intended to hurt a persons feelings. Usually the person making the hateful comment doesn’t care that it hurts the other person.
For example, “I wish you would go jump off a bridge!”, is a hateful comment.
Opinion: An opinion is a statement in which shows a persons view on a specific topic, decision, or event. This type of statement is not and will never be intended to hurt anyone’s feelings for any reason.
So, when a news outlet or media makes a post on social media asking things such as ” Do you think this bill should have been passed?” or “Do you think this person got the right punishment for their crime?”, they are asking you for your opinion. Every one of you is entitled to one. Understand this though, not everyone is going to have the same opinion as you. So holding their opinions over their head and telling them that they are wrong for thinking them is RIDICULOUS! An opinion is not a right or wrong answer. People are not right or wrong because they think or feel differently then the next person. Learn to accept that and move on with your life. Getting yourself worked up over this is not worth it. Next time someone asks you for your opinion, just leave your opinion (at your will) and leave it at that. Wipe your hands of it and move on. It makes things simple and less stressful for you.
There’s so many things I wish I never did back in high school. I was so hung up in the social life that I took away from time to just focus on me. I was too worried about guys and dating when I should have been focusing on what I wanted to do with my life. Don’t do what I did! If you’re in high school, take time to just focus on you. Who cares about who’s dating who or whether or not you’re in a relationship. Be social and make friends but forget the petty stuff. You have your whole life to worry about that. Save it for another day. You only get to go through high school once. There’s no redos.
I know a lot of you are afraid to try things for fear that they won’t work. Some of you may have tried things and they didn’t work. Maybe some of you keep trying to do the same things and always ending up with the same ending results. That’s what happens when you don’t try something new.
For instance, if I were to try and date somebody I really liked but I kept going about things in the same manner watching things fail time and time again; I’d never get the person’s attention, right? But what if I went about it in a different way? What if I tried a different approach to getting this person’s attention?
Sometimes when you try things using more than one approach you get better results. It’s all about Trial and Error. Some ideas will work and some will not. It’s up to you to figure out which ones do and which ones don’t. Eliminate frustrations, go back to the drawing board, and get thinking.
We asked Chris Burkmenn of the CBEX in Nashville a few questions about what he did when he came across struggles in his dreams. This is what he said.
How did you manage to get past those times? The struggles.
Getting past The struggles I think is hard for anyone. It truly challenges us to question are we in this for convince or was this something I was born to do. Our dreams take work to get there and it will be a lot of work. See anyone can have a “thought” to do something, but few truly dream and push through the struggles because it’s hard and it’s uncomfortable.
I wish I could write this and say to each of you, that I am free of the struggle; and that all is well and that I will never have to fight that again. The truth is each day I wake up and I have to decide if today is going to be a good day or a bad day. Am I going to give into the insecurities of failing or am I going to push myself so that no matter what the outcome is I actually learned something valuable from my 24 hours. Each of us has 24 hours no more, no less and we must each choose to fight for what we want.
See I am a man of faith and I truly believe that “God doesn’t place a dream inside of us that He doesn’t have the ability to fulfill.”
So to answer your question how do I manage to get past the struggles, I fight each day that I wake up.
Do you feel you’ve reached most of the goals or all of the goals you wanted to reach when you first started out? Are there any others you would like to still achieve down the road?
I have reached some crazy goals that I never in my life that thought they would be even possible to achieve. Growing up admiring Barbara Walters to pretending I was Carson Daly in my mirror. I knew since I was young I wanted to be in front of a camera and entertain people. I remember just know it was a part of my purpose. I have been a music fan since a child and when I realized that the gift of singing was not a part of my gift I still just wanted to be a part of it. I am a very lucky person to have been fortunate enough to work for some of the biggest music award shows that exist. Meeting some of the artist that I have admired since a child.
Each day I wake up and take a breath I think, What new goals can I dream up today. I think each chapter of your life reveals new interests and mindsets. We must continue to tap into these wonderful things that drive us and figure out how we can spend the rest of our lives making that our “work.”
So many other goals that I would like to achieve I’d love to one day be able to play with the big dogs like Ryan Seacrest, Carson Daly, Jimmy Fallon, Ellen. I am sure by the time I reach those levels there will be different people in those positions and with hope and work I’d love to be one of those people. But I believe in what I am doing and I love it, but this is just the beginning of my story.
Is there anything you would like to tell anyone trying to achieve their dreams and goals as you did? Maybe some advice based off of your own experiences?
My greatest advice that I could give you is, Start working toward your goal where you are, what can you do now that will help prepare you for where you want to go. It’s such valuable advice because we often think we will be learning when we get where we want to go, but truly we should already be ready when we hit that moment. Each of us have a different course that will take to get where we want to go and they will all look different, but that doesn’t discount the preparation of that dream.
Where can we find the CBEX?
You can find CBEX on www.thecbex.com we are also on youtube which is our vehicle for our content. We have some great things coming up as well as being a part of MadeinNashville.org which is September 12th here in Nashville if you or any of your readers are in town I’d love to meet you and have you stop by this great day full of fun, music, and supporting our local Nashville. Carly Pearce and Jenn Bostic will be there as well as some other great talent!
Thank you truly for the great experience of being a part of what your dream is and where you hope to go with it. You are on the right track and just keep going. Never let anyone tell you that it’s not worth it, because it’s worth every mistake, every attempt, and every great moment you will ever achieve.
“The death of the dream is the day you stop believing in the work it takes to get there.”
On behalf on Plain & Simple I’d like to Thank You for taking the time to answer these questions and for sharing your story with us! We only hope that you continue striving towards your goals and dreams!
You guys struggle, I know you do. I am most certainly not the only one. But isn’t it wearing on you? Why do you continue to put up with it? The more you let those wars take over, the more you will lose control of yourself. Get help and fight back! Find that peace that you’ve been searching for within you and finally be set free of these internal struggles. You owe it to yourself to finally put an end to it. You’ve dealt with it for long enough. You don’t need it. It’s over.
When this negativity enters your life, your world stands still. Life doesn’t move forward or at least it doesn’t feel like it. That’s because you’re not letting it. You have to want to be happy. The eagerness is what’s going to set you free. It’s what’s going to spark your questions and start you down the path to being truly happy. Be free not frozen. Live life and just be happy.
There’s going to be people in your life that are going to cause you pain; leave them. You don’t need that. Your life has either just begun or is about to and the only reason these people are making things difficult is because they’re simply jealous. You don’t need people like that in your life. All they will do is tear you down and you need built up not torn down. You need to love and these type of people won’t let you do that so your best option is to get away from them and just do you. Trust me, they need you more that you need them. You have your whole life ahead of you and for once you need to be happy. It’s time to live your life.